Are your New Year's resolutions a FOMO trap?
The key to true self-improvement lies in the intention behind the resolutions.
The key to true self-improvement lies in the intention behind the resolutions. - Canva
But let’s pause for a reality check: Are these promises to change fueled by genuine self-improvement, or are they just another box to tick off because everyone else seems to be doing it?
Sage Centre Lead Clinical Psychologist Nabilah Burhanuddin said: "True self-improvement is grounded in intrinsic motivation—doing something because it aligns with your values or it brings personal satisfaction," she said.
Using exercise as an example, Nabilah notes that the motivation behind such a goal should be to feel stronger and healthier, rather than to meet external expectations or trends.
"When goals are motivated by Fomo (Fear of Missing Out), they tend to be extrinsically motivated, making them feel like a burden since they lack personal significance, which makes it more difficult to sustain," she said.
Elaborating further, she said that fresh starts are supposed to be motivating, be it small or big changes.
"Real changes derive from small, consistent steps rather than grand gestures," Nabilah said.
Nabilah emphasised the importance of reflection before setting goals, urging individuals to ensure their aspirations hold genuine meaning rather than being shaped by external influences.
Elaborating further, she pointed out how social media, a near-universal tool, magnifies what psychologists refer to as impression management.
"It is our desire to present ourselves in the best light. When everyone is sharing their New Year's goals online, it is easy to feel like we need to jump on the bandwagon just to keep up," she explained.
Nabilah pointed out that the pressure to chase trends or live up to societal expectations often leads to setting goals that lack personal significance—like committing to fitness plans solely because it’s the latest trend, not because "their heart is really in it."
Comparing oneself to the carefully curated lives displayed online can push people toward extrinsically motivated resolutions. Instead, she stressed the importance of pursuing goals that align with personal values and bring genuine happiness.
