Filmmaker Yusof Haslam sheds tears over son Shamsul's second marriage
SYDI ALIF08 Jan 2023 05:31pm
Screenshot of Yusof Haslam on the TV show Melodi - Instagram (@hotfm976)
Recently, local television show Melodi's reporter asked Yusof about how he feels about his son's second marriage to actress Ira Kazar in Thailand without neither his father or mother's knowledge, he responded; "It would be a lie if I said that I'm not disappointed, but my feelings is probably not the same as Datin (his wife).
"His mother was sad, a little angry. I told her for our sake, just pray for the best, and if any problem arises after this, I hope that Syamsul will give a clear explanation take responsibility on what might happen,"he added.
Yusof said even if Syamsul and his first wife, also actress Puteri Sarah were not meant to be, he still hopes Syamsul will not neglect his responsibilities towards Sarah and his two children.
"I also hope that Syamsul, my daughter-in-law Sarah, my wife as well as myself will be able to move on from this.
"We need to look forward. What happened cannot be undone," he added.
When asked if he was disappointed, he replied, "I don't want to talk about whether I am disdisappointed.
"I just want to tell Syamsul to become more responsible because this life is not easy. It is a fight to defend our marriage, to defend our spouse, be responsible as a husband.," he advised his son while holding back more tears.
Pointing out that not just providing financial means, but also taking care of each other's feelings between husband and wife is part of the responsibility in marriage, Yusof said, adding that he had been married for nearly 40 years.
He shared that what keeps them together is that he sticks by his wife and not just leave her to deal with her hard times alone.
He reminded, "We as humans are not perfect and so is our partner. If there is any wrong, solve it especially the husband who needs to play his role as he is the imam (leader) of a family."
Having been married for decades, he admitted that he too dealt with problems, but he refused to make it a big deal.
The filmmaker also advised to admit when one's wrong and not to keep secrets for a long-lasting marriage.
"We cannot be selfish and we cannot expect our wife to listen to us 100 per cent as she is not a robot, she is a lovely human who stands by our side, who gave birth to our children.
"If there is a sense of responsibility, love and tolerance, God willing our marriage will last.," the father told his son whom he only wished happiness for.
