WHEN we talk about celebrating men on International Men’s Day, it’s more than just acknowledging their contributions—it's about embracing the unique spirit, struggles, and successes that define manhood.
In Malaysia, being a man comes with its own set of challenges and expectations, often deeply rooted in culture, tradition, and evolving societal norms.
Yet, the men of Malaysia have proven time and again that they are resilient, adaptable, and, most importantly, deeply compassionate.
The role of men in Malaysian households
From the towering Petronas Twin Towers to the kampung houses dotted across the nation, Malaysian men have played a pivotal role in building our country.
They are the fathers, brothers, sons, and husbands who keep families together, often working tirelessly to provide, protect, and nurture.
In Malaysia’s multicultural landscape, men helm roles influenced by Malay, Chinese, Indian, and many other traditions. Whether it’s donning a baju melayu and guiding their families during Hari Raya or preparing traditional dishes for Deepavali and Chinese New Year, men carry the weight of cultural preservation with pride.
Yet, modern times have seen Malaysian men step into new roles. Today’s men are not just breadwinners; they are also hands-on fathers, supportive spouses, and advocates for gender equality. This shift is vital in fostering a balanced society where men and women thrive as equals.
The strength to adapt and overcome
Malaysian men have an incredible ability to adapt. The challenges of balancing traditional expectations with modern realities can be overwhelming, yet they persevere. Whether it’s the young man working two jobs to fund his education, the middle-aged man juggling family and career responsibilities, or the retiree mentoring the next generation, Malaysian men embody resilience.
Think of the fishermen braving rough seas in Terengganu, the farmers tending to crops in Cameron Highlands, and the tech-savvy entrepreneurs in Kuala Lumpur. Each plays a role in shaping Malaysia’s economy and contributing to its growth.
Yet, the strength of Malaysian men isn’t just about physical or financial contributions—it’s about emotional endurance. Men often face the silent battle of societal pressure to appear "strong" and "unshakable." However, the narrative is shifting, and more men are stepping forward to acknowledge their vulnerabilities, seeking help, and inspiring others to do the same.
The unique Malaysian humour and camaraderie
Let’s not forget one of the most endearing qualities of Malaysian men: their sense of humour. Whether it’s cracking jokes over a plate of nasi lemak or teasing each other at the mamak while debating football matches, Malaysian men know how to bring laughter into even the most stressful situations.
The camaraderie among men is palpable in everything from futsal matches to lepak sessions. These bonds often surpass race, religion, and background, showcasing Malaysia’s spirit of unity in diversity.
Celebrating men’s achievements and contributions
International Men’s Day is also a time to shine a spotlight on men who have gone above and beyond to make Malaysia proud. From athletes like Lee Zii Jia and Datuk Azizulhasni Awang, who brought glory in Olympics, to business leaders driving innovation, and everyday heroes like teachers, firefighters, and healthcare workers, Malaysian men have proven their dedication to excellence.
We also celebrate unsung heroes: the fathers who work tirelessly to put food on the table, the husbands who stand by their partners through thick and thin, and the young men who challenge stereotypes and advocate for a better tomorrow.
Breaking stereotypes: men and mental health
One of the most pressing issues facing men today is mental health. In Malaysia, there’s a growing awareness that "being a man" doesn’t mean suppressing emotions or bearing burdens in silence. International Men’s Day serves as a reminder that men’s mental health matters just as much as physical health.
Campaigns and initiatives are encouraging men to open up, seek help, and support each other. This shift is crucial in a society where suicide rates and depression often remain hidden behind a facade of strength. The more we normalise these conversations, the healthier and happier our men will be.
A call for balance and respect
While International Men’s Day celebrates men, it also calls for balance. True equality means creating a society where men and women work together to uplift one another. It’s about respecting the roles both genders play and acknowledging that everyone has their own struggles and triumphs.
Malaysian men have shown time and again that they are more than capable of adapting to this ideal. Whether it’s sharing household responsibilities, supporting their daughters' education, or advocating for women’s rights, men have a significant role in creating an equitable society.
A fun ode to being a Malaysian man
Being a man in Malaysia is also about enjoying life’s little pleasures. It’s about mastering the art of ordering "teh tarik kurang manis," outwitting friends during a game of sepak takraw, or proudly showing off your "powerbank" skills at karaoke sessions. It’s about waking up early to queue for nasi lemak, sweating it out in pasar malam crowds, and still finding the energy to cheer on Harimau Malaya at midnight.
Malaysian men know how to strike a balance between hard work and leisure, tradition and progress, seriousness and humour.
Let’s celebrate Malaysian men
On this International Men’s Day, let’s celebrate the spirit of Malaysian men. Let’s honour their contributions, laugh at their jokes, and listen to their stories. Let’s encourage them to embrace who they are—strong yet vulnerable, proud yet humble, and always striving for better.
To all the men in Malaysia, Selamat Hari Lelaki Sedunia! You’re not just pillars of strength but also sources of inspiration, and the nation is better because of you. Keep shining, keep thriving, and keep being unapologetically you!